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Flashback Friday – 12/11 – Christmas Edition Pt. 2

Happy Friday All! I’m coming at you with the second part of Da Fif Floor’s Christmas Special. Alright, so its not really a Christmas special–I just now made that up but you get the point! Now is about the time when people start stressing about what to get who, how much they have to spend, blah blah blah. Its all politics people! If shopping isn’t fun anymore, do some thoughtful gift buying or even making from the heart and all will be to the good. Worry about enjoying the holiday season with the people you love the most and just chillllll…… the songs I’m posting. 😀 Today’s blog features some classic Christmas songs from Charles Brown, Faith Evans, Mariah Carey, The Temptations and TLC. I have still ten more songs to post up between now and Christmas, so if you have requests that you’d like me to fulfill on the blog, please leave a comment! Enjoy these songs, vote, leave a comment, make a suggestion, pass this one to anyone who needs their (Christmas) spirits lifted and have a blessed weekend! 😀

*Exits outta the firescape*

Charles Brown – Merry Christmas Baby

Faith Evans – Christmas Lullabye

Mariah Carey – All I Want For Christmas Is You

The Temptations — Give Love On Christmas Day

TLC – Sleigh Ride


How Being A Redskins Fan Can Prepare You For Marriage

skins_facepalmOk, so I’ve never been married and I can’t claim to know all there is about being married. I hope to be one day in the distant future, so learning all I can now about how to be happy and sustain a successful marriage will be better for me and my future spouse (whoever that lucky man may be, *smile*) in the long run. What I do know is that if I love him half as much as I love my favorite football team, the Washington Redskins, he will never have to worry about a thing. And yes, I said the Washington Redskins. The same team that just lost to Detroit Lions, who were on a 19 game losing streak over the past two seasons prior to them defeating us 19-14 this past weekend.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a die hard, lifelong Redskins fan, but our relationship has become strained as of late. Between a clueless owner and coaches, a handful of players who aren’t giving their all on the field every play and a backup linebacker calling some of us dim wits for booing a half-hearted effort during a nail biting win over the lowly Rams, I’m  not so sure I’m feeling the love being returned.

My parents are Washingtonians, so I grew up cheering for this team and have never been a fan of any other team in my 27 years.  I have tons and tons of Redskins paraphernalia and season tickets that are out of my budget. I follow them all year around, not just during football season. I support them through the good times and the bad times; the ups and the downs. When game day comes, they get my full, undivided attention. Whenever fans of other teams try to put them down, no matter how much the team is struggling, I fight to the end to back up my team. I don’t flirt with any other teams and do what lots of other people do and have a “second” team. I do have a couple teams that I like and hope they do well, but we’re “just friends”. I even have friends of mine who tell me I need to ditch the ‘Skins because they aren’t winning and their teams are, but I dismiss that notion in a heartbeat with no hesitation. No other team can hurt me like the Redskins do when they lose and no other team can make me feel as good when they win.  I am deeply devoted and committed. So in essence, I feel like I’m married to the team.

I do all of this and what do I get in return? A 1-2 start to season that feels like its over already because of the lack of direction and identity the team has. I don’t even recognize them anymore. Things aren’t the way they used to be. I wish we could get back to how things used to be during the Joe Gibbs era that I grew up loving. The days of smash mouth football with John Riggins toting the rock, lead by The Hogs. Dominating defenses lead by Darrell Green and his tootsie rolls. The team is full of tradition, so if I have to, I’ll go back and watch old highlights of the good ‘ol days. It hurts to know that we’ve come to this point, but no matter how bad things get, I just can’t love another team or another sport the way I love Redskins football. No one ever said relationships or marriages are easy. But if its one thing I do know, its even when there seems to be no relief in sight for our problems, I have to love them harder, even when no one else believes in us. I already know I’m not going anywhere as a fan, so I won’t deny what team has my heart. As I was doing my daily reading of the Bible (or nightly reading since I’m a night owl), it was time to read 1 Corinthians 13, also known as, “ The Love Chapter”. In my reading, I came across a quote that applies to life and love in general, but also applied to the love I have for my team. It read, “It’s better to believe in someone and have your heart broken than to have no heart at all.” That ain’t nothing but the truth folks. I can’t help but root for my squad with all I have, no matter what. So the moral of the story is, when times get hard with something or someone you love, don’t quit on them. Remember what made you fall in love in the first place and love harder. I will say this though–with the way my favorite team is playing now, they’re sleeping on the couch until they get things turned around, lol. Hail To The Redskins! 😀



Flashback Friday – 5/29


Happy Friday All!! If you’ve been tuning into these blogs every Friday, you have seen that I’m trying to provide a short stroll down memory lane for all of my Hip Hop/Rap and R&B heads. This week, I’m throwing out another handful of songs that you may turn up a little louder because it may have been a while since you’ve heard it (or because you just really like the song alot). Now, if you all don’t like the songs I post up,  just let me know and I’ll stop. Actually, I’m gonna keep doing what I’m doing, regardless if you all like it or not, lol. ;). So enjoy, vote, suggest and comment if you like. Peace.

*Exits outta the firescape*

Black Sheep – The Choice Is Yours

Ed O.G. & Da Bulldogs – I Got To Have It

Nas – It Ain’t Hard To Tell

SWV – Rain

Toni Braxton – Love Should Brought You Home


Da Crunk Revival: 20 Most Bootyful Sistas of Hollywood


Whew, has it been 2 weeks already? Did you miss me? I doubt it but I thought I’d ask anyway. A lot’s happened since my last post. NBA awards have been given out, images have been tarnished, and the playoffs are beginning to heat up. We’ve also seen nudie pictures leaked, and lost legendary coaches and players. While those are important, nothing stood out to me like Maxim’s Hot 100.

As you know, each year Maxim picks 100 women they believe are the most beautiful and trendy in Hollywood. It’s a great concept that in some ways benefits the ladies just as much as the magazine. However my “beef” with the magazine is the limited number of ebony women featured. Six out of 100 doesn’t cut it for me. Not when I see women ranked higher who I know have no business being there. Also the black ladies involved are usually petite and fair skinned, unless they’re having an insanely popular year. Can we get a big booty Nubian goddess or two on the list Maxim? I‘m talking about women who are so thick, their booties clap when they walk. Like I said, I just want to see one or two. Is that too much to ask for?

Seeing as how it’s too late to change Maxim’s mind this year, perhaps there’s a way I could influence the 2010 list a bit. What if I compiled my own list? What if it included the ebony queens who make me look twice or my heart skip a beat? Crazier thoughts have entered my mind. But hey, this might not blow up in my face. I won’t get ahead of myself. There’s a 55/45 chance I won’t come away from this looking like an idiot. So it’s decided…I’m doing it.

Maxim does 100 but I’m too lazy to put forth the time and effort something like that would require. I’ll be fine with only listing 20 ladies. The order might stun you but I guess you have to keep reading to find out. And I want to preface this by saying I almost included Lady just get a laugh out of it, but cooler heads prevailed. Last thing I need is that village she calls a family, hunting me down and hanging me by my shins, while they beat my ass with bats and hubcaps. A little off topic but I’m back on track now. Let’s do this. 


20. Jill Scott

This full-figured honey raises eye brows and heart rates with her music. Her songs are included in bedroom mixtapes across the world. I still can’t listen to My Love without biting my bottom lip or rubbing the stubble I call a beard. “My love is deeper, tighter, sweeter, higher, fire, didn’t you know this?” Damn, that’s what’s up!


 19. Jennifer Hudson

Juicy lips, voluptuous hips, tig ol’ bitties, and a voice that few can match, these are just a few of the impressive assets Jennifer possesses. I was late to jump on the J-Hud bandwagon, but the strength she showed following the brutal murders of family members, made me to look at her differently. Too bad she’s engaged to a dude best known for being a punk.


18. Keyshia Cole

Maybe I have some sort of strange fetish or whatever else you’d call it. But women like Ms. Cole are very attractive to me. Just look at her. Doesn’t she seem like the kind of chic who could take a bullet for her man, and still pop off twelve rounds in a fool?  A woman like that is sent from heaven. Damn, that was corny as hell, wasn’t it?


17. Ashanti

This will probably be the shortest reason I’ll write all day. Her body got her on this list because it damn sure wasn’t her music or minor acting roles.


16. Thandie Newton

Many of you who read this will think I’m insane for ranking her so low. Sorry folks, she was never going to be in my top 10. 11 – 13 was a more suitable ranking except I had to drop her to 16 based on the minimum number of times I’ve watch her in films, and how I’ve never walked away remembering her. Don’t get me wrong she is just as stunning as many of the ladies rated ahead of her. She just doesn’t do it for me like the others.

Shrine Auditorium15. Taraji Henson

Taraji’s come along way from the days of crying over baby boy creeping with her coworkers. Four consecutive years she’s been honored with nominations by the Screen Actors Guild. And her role in the Curious Case of Benjamin Button was recognized when she received her first Academy Award nomination earlier this year. She’s accepted all of her accolades with that gorgeous smile of hers. You can tell the joy in a person’s heart by their smile, and one thing you rarely see is Taraji without a huge grin on her face.


14. Vanessa Williams

We all thought “save the best for last” was only the title and key chorus line in one of Vanessa’s greatest hits. Perhaps we looked at it from the wrong angle. Maybe that song was a prelude to her acting career. Her role in Soul Food was pretty good but Wilhelmina Slater is the crown jewel of her career. Sassy, vindictive, cunning…a role Vanessa was meant to play. Despite being 46 she still looks like she’s in her 30s. I guess that botox is doing its job.


13. Keri Hilson

It’s about time she got her shine. I remember first seeing Keri back in 2004 in Xzibit’s Mean Muggin video. I wondered who she was and if she was about to drop an album. It took 5 years and hooking up with Timberland, but it’s finally paid off with her debut album dropping earlier this year. I’m feeling some of the tracks on the there. In fact, Knock You Down might be one of the best R & B tracks I’ve heard this year. Look forward to seeing more of Keri. With that smile and evolution as a song writer, she’s going to be around for awhile.


12. Ciara

If you asked me back when Goodies first hit the radio, if I thought Ciara would put out a second, let alone third, I would’ve told you hell no. To my surprise, she’s become one of the bright spots for ladies in the music industry, by finding a way to remain fresh in young fans’ hearts and continuing to drop hits. Love Sex Magic is another catchy tune, and getting Timberlake on a track is like certified hitmaking. Hopefully she keeps working that booty of hers in some videos while it’s still tight.


11. Laila Ali

Swagger comes easily when your father is the greatest to ever do it. Whereas most children of celebrities are content with being known for their famous parents, Laila used her name as a foot in the boxing’s door, and then smashed her way on through. Critics might say she’s still unproven on the ring but they can’t deny she’s the biggest draw in the sport. The greatest career move she could’ve made was participating in the forth season of Dancing with the Stars. We knew she was strong; however we didn’t know how sexy and charismatic she was. Thank the big man upstairs for ballroom dancing.


10. Meagan Good

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I don’t know when it happened, but little Nina with braces in My Cousin Skeeter turned in one of those chics who pop up in your fantasies. She was always cute, but parts of her body started to fit right. How does a petite woman like her have such big breasts and bubble booty? You saw her in Waist Deep and The Unborn. Need I say more?


9. Rihanna


With the whole Chris Brown hitting her and her taking his ass back, I wasn’t going to include her on my list. Yes, she’s a pretty girl but it’s hard to tolerate her behavior. However, she found a way to get back in my good graces. Her leaked nude pics were a sight to behold. I never realized she has a nice set of pierced boobies on her, to go with that nice little ass of hers. So on leaked nudes alone, she’s in my top 10.


8. Gabrielle Union


I’ve been on Ms Union for years now. With her vivacious smile accenting her milk chocolate skin perfectly, the rest of her body is an added bonus. Don’t get it twisted, she can act her ass. She’s shown that she has what it takes to be a leading lady in Hollywood. As long as she continues working as hard as she does, she’ll be a fixture in our living rooms either on TV or DVD.


7. Lisa-Raye


LisaRaye will forever hold a special place in my heart. I think I was a freshman in high school when The Player’s Club came out, and for me Diamond was the most beautiful and attractive woman I had seen at that time. I usually suck at remembering actors and actresses’ names, but I didn’t forget hers. Between modeling, and different acting gigs she’s gotten through the years, two things have not changed. LisaRaye is as radiant as ever, and that phat ass of hers still makes a brotha bite his fist.


6. Beyonce


It’s Beyonce, what can I say. From the jump, she’s had stardom on her mind. Even during the early days of Destiny’s Child, she was the one who was destined to go places. She was the sexy lead singer with the smile that matched her powerful voice. There was no question that she’d venture out and become a successful solo artist, but I never expected this. She’s quite possibly the most marketable woman of color these days. And when she shows those thick legs and hips, she can drive you crazy with some of her dance routines. There’s no question who the queen of R&B and hip hop is right now. That’s title Beyonce won’t be losing anytime soon, if Hova has anything to say about it.

sanaalathan 5. Sanaa Lathan

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Some folks out there are sleeping on just how sexy Sanaa is. If you saw her as Monica Wright in Love & Basketball, I don’t know how you couldn’t see potential there. That booty of hers being so big you could see through the baggy clothes and gym shorts. And who could forget the refrigerator sex scene from Disappearing Act. Although she hasn’t had the greatest roles lately, Love & Basketball and Brown Sugar were a great launching point for what is still a flourishing career.  


4. Paula Patton


Honestly, I haven’t seen Paula’s movies. I have seen her on Robin Thicke’s album cover and in the Lose Without U video. So I’m willing to admit the flaws in my logic. She is gorgeous and if I had seen more of her roles, she’d be #1 on my list. That’s just how naturally beautiful she is.

The Cinerama Dome

3. Lauren London


New New! I didn’t know this young lady’s real name until about 6 months before This Christmas came out. She was just New New from ATL, the roller skating cutie with the dimples. But her career has really taken off since then. More movie roles are coming her way, as well as guest spots on some of the hottest shows on television like 90210 and Entourage. Give her credit, she’s not settling for being a popular actress in the black community. She’s taking on roles that also expose her to the white audience that may not have seen before. LL has so much potential, it’ll be interesting to see if she can fulfill it.

HalleBerryEPA_450x450 2. Halle Berry


It’s Halle Berry…how else can I explain that? At 42, she’s still one of the most beautiful women on the planet. And for 20 years she’s been the most influential and groundbreaking actress of color in Hollywood. Her Academy Award winning performance in Monster’s Ball is often considered her signature role. Though for me it will never be on par with Queen. Her portrayal of Queen Haley in the Queen miniseries is still one of the most remarkable acting performances I’ve seen in my lifetime. No other actress could’ve taken that role to the heights she did. So for that role and the two cantaloupes on her chest, Halle will always remain near the top of my list.

alicia-keys-in-madrid1. Alicia Keys


When I scribbled down the names on this list, Ms. Keys was the first I listed. Without question, she and Paula Patton are the two most naturally beautiful women on this list. Yet there’s a sassy yet soulful, and somewhat seductive element to Ms. Keys that’s rare these days. She’s a classical musician with her own unique sound and style. Her songs are so profound. When you listen to them, they stick with you for awhile. In some ways I think folks are sleeping on her music and beauty. That’s hard believe when each album she releases garners 3 or more Grammys. We’re witnessing greatness. I just wish more people would realize it.

Alright, here you go, the 20 hottest ebony women in my eyes. This was more difficult that I first expected. I went through about 6 or 7 different variations of the list before settling on this one. I thought I could just throw 20 names out there and run through it. Once I got started I realized there was more to the process than looks. Success and familiarity came into play as well. All in all, I think it turned out well.

What are your thoughts on the list?  Love it, hate it? Get at me and let me know.


Lyrical Insomnia


Have you ever listened to a song, and wondered if the artist was perched on a tree outside your window when they wrote it? That’s where I am right now. A female friend told me to check out the song Someone, by Musiq Soulchild. She had blasted it a couple times that day and figured she’d drop some much needed R&B in my life. As in most cases like this, I already had that particular album, but never really listened to it. Man, I wish I had listened to the song before now cause it’s left a brotha’s mind in knots.

Maybe “knots” is a bit over dramatic, but it’s damn near close. When I listen to music, the beat or lyrical content has to be on point, if not, I’m not feeling it. By lyrical content I mean, thought provoking lyrics that bring you inside the artist’s mind, and prompt you to “compare notes” so to speak, with your own life. I’m sure any man like me who hasn’t had much success when it comes to love, or even kats that have already found that special lady, can really identify with this song.

Here are the lyrics that really stood out to me the most.

  • See I always hope for a woman that’s so sure, emotionally secure, with spiritual faith. – If I’ve given you the pleasure of getting to know the real me, then you know how strong I feel about my relationship with the big man upstairs. The problem I often find with women is that they’re either spiritual weaklings, or just “go to church”. I’m not the church every week type, and can count on my hands how many times I go in a year. So when I ask a woman how she feels about God, and her response is, “I go to church.”, I’m out. Cause any true believer of the Word knows that spiritual growth starts in your own private time, and church is more like icing on the cake. The answer I’m still waiting for is, “I love the Lord, and can’t imagine where my life would be without him.” It’s emphatic and shows how confident she is in her faith and herself.
  • A woman that I can trust with all of my secrets, and even listen to all of my issues. – I trust about as often as I change dogs, and I’ve only had 4 dogs in my lifetime. So to say that I have trust issues is an understatement. I’ve seen where trusting the wrong women has gotten friends and male family members of mine. They’re broken-hearted, single, and either owe their ex’s alimony or child support. I’m not looking to follow in their footsteps so I have to trust selectively. But like every man out there, I’m looking for that woman who can break through the wall I have surrounding me.
  • Someone who will put up with the things, loving me can bring, but still be there to see us through. – Let me bring you inside my head for a moment. I’m a bit apprehensive when it comes anyone, especially women. Blame it on my upbringing, or past endeavors of the heart. But dealing with me is like driving backwards in traffic, one misstep and you’re royally screwed. Yes, I’m an ass sometimes, but I openly admit that. However, I don’t play games, but I will test the hell out of a woman. It’s never on purpose but I tend to push away them away just to see if they’ll stick around. I’ve had a couple who’ve let me know that they weren’t going anywhere, and that’s what I’m looking for.
  • All that I hope for a friendship that’s so pure, a girl I can talk to bout, whatever is on my heart. – I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone tell me that they could never date a friend, yet they want their significant other to be their friend once the relationship is serious. Those same people are single again after their plan blew up in their faces. If I can’t be friends with a woman from the start, I’m pretty sure things won’t work out. There’s a level of familiarity when you date a friend, and the potential to love that person is there because you know them & they know you so well. And the fact that you can talk to them openly is a major plus. Why waste time getting to know a stranger, when you can skip that process by dating someone who you don’t have to wait to bare your soul to.
  • A woman who bares her soul, who is willing to let go. That wants me to lead her but knows how to take control. – I have this thing about a woman not holding back with me, before I’ll return the sentiment. But you do have those women who are only as open as you are, and that’ll never work with me. And I could take the 2nd half of this lyric from a sexual perspective, but I wanna look at it more from a teamwork standpoint. The success of a team is based on how well the pieces compliment each other. I don’t know everything, and I’ve never claimed that I did. Having a woman whose strengths compensate for my weaknesses, seems ideal to me. As a man I want to take charge of most situations, but as a real man, I have no problem deferring to my woman when it’s in our best interest.

As you can tell, “Someone” really got the gears in my mind turning. It’s had somewhat of a double edged sword effect for me. While I wanna believe there are women out there that fit the description in the song, I know I’m gonna find myself using the lyrics as a checklist for women past and present in my life. It might be a good thing, then again it could be utterly terrible. No matter what, I’m gonna continue to be so crunk, yet so humble. And when that “someone” does come, I might keep her around.

For your listening pleasure……


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