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How Being A Redskins Fan Can Prepare You For Marriage

skins_facepalmOk, so I’ve never been married and I can’t claim to know all there is about being married. I hope to be one day in the distant future, so learning all I can now about how to be happy and sustain a successful marriage will be better for me and my future spouse (whoever that lucky man may be, *smile*) in the long run. What I do know is that if I love him half as much as I love my favorite football team, the Washington Redskins, he will never have to worry about a thing. And yes, I said the Washington Redskins. The same team that just lost to Detroit Lions, who were on a 19 game losing streak over the past two seasons prior to them defeating us 19-14 this past weekend.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a die hard, lifelong Redskins fan, but our relationship has become strained as of late. Between a clueless owner and coaches, a handful of players who aren’t giving their all on the field every play and a backup linebacker calling some of us dim wits for booing a half-hearted effort during a nail biting win over the lowly Rams, I’m  not so sure I’m feeling the love being returned.

My parents are Washingtonians, so I grew up cheering for this team and have never been a fan of any other team in my 27 years.  I have tons and tons of Redskins paraphernalia and season tickets that are out of my budget. I follow them all year around, not just during football season. I support them through the good times and the bad times; the ups and the downs. When game day comes, they get my full, undivided attention. Whenever fans of other teams try to put them down, no matter how much the team is struggling, I fight to the end to back up my team. I don’t flirt with any other teams and do what lots of other people do and have a “second” team. I do have a couple teams that I like and hope they do well, but we’re “just friends”. I even have friends of mine who tell me I need to ditch the ‘Skins because they aren’t winning and their teams are, but I dismiss that notion in a heartbeat with no hesitation. No other team can hurt me like the Redskins do when they lose and no other team can make me feel as good when they win.  I am deeply devoted and committed. So in essence, I feel like I’m married to the team.

I do all of this and what do I get in return? A 1-2 start to season that feels like its over already because of the lack of direction and identity the team has. I don’t even recognize them anymore. Things aren’t the way they used to be. I wish we could get back to how things used to be during the Joe Gibbs era that I grew up loving. The days of smash mouth football with John Riggins toting the rock, lead by The Hogs. Dominating defenses lead by Darrell Green and his tootsie rolls. The team is full of tradition, so if I have to, I’ll go back and watch old highlights of the good ‘ol days. It hurts to know that we’ve come to this point, but no matter how bad things get, I just can’t love another team or another sport the way I love Redskins football. No one ever said relationships or marriages are easy. But if its one thing I do know, its even when there seems to be no relief in sight for our problems, I have to love them harder, even when no one else believes in us. I already know I’m not going anywhere as a fan, so I won’t deny what team has my heart. As I was doing my daily reading of the Bible (or nightly reading since I’m a night owl), it was time to read 1 Corinthians 13, also known as, “ The Love Chapter”. In my reading, I came across a quote that applies to life and love in general, but also applied to the love I have for my team. It read, “It’s better to believe in someone and have your heart broken than to have no heart at all.” That ain’t nothing but the truth folks. I can’t help but root for my squad with all I have, no matter what. So the moral of the story is, when times get hard with something or someone you love, don’t quit on them. Remember what made you fall in love in the first place and love harder. I will say this though–with the way my favorite team is playing now, they’re sleeping on the couch until they get things turned around, lol. Hail To The Redskins! 😀



Sunday Spiritual 8/30: Humility – When Are You Gonna Pass the Damn Ball?


Text: Philippians 2:1-8 (King James Version)

1 If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies,

 2 Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.

 3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

 4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.

 5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:

 6 Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God:

 7 But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:

 8 And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.

When Are You Gonna Pass the Damn Ball?

After reading the title I bet you’re wondering, “Did he just say pass the damn ball?” That’s exactly what I said. Sometimes it takes a bold statement to grab the attention of those who may not be receptive to what you have to say. For example, look at Jehovah’s Witnesses. They’re not better or worse than any of us, but they get a bad rep because of the way they spread the Lord’s message. They go door to door or car to car dressed In their finest garments, passing out pamphlets and asking you to come to their church and partake in their fellowship. However when you see a Jehovah’s Witness walking in your neighborhood, what’s your first reaction? It’s usually to get to in the house as fast as you can and turn off all the lights so they’ll think no one is home. There’s nothing wrong with that. Some of us aren’t open to exploring the religious teachings of a denomination we aren’t familiar with. Or we don’t feel like standing there while someone we know nothing about preaches the teachings of the Lord. Although I may be guilty of hiding a time or two, I respect what Jehovah’s witnesses represent. They are a perfect example of humility.

Far too often society confuses humility and humiliate for one another. When you take the time to look up these words, you see they’re distinct opposites. Humiliate is defined as reducing to a lower position in one’s own eyes or others’ eyes. Yet humility means the quality or state of being humble. So with one word you’re allowing yourself to become a slave to your own insecurities and what you think other people will say about you. But with the other you show your strength and confidence. You show the world that you’re so comfortable in your own skin and own beliefs that what they have to say means nothing to you because your God accepts you for who you are. He accepts you for your faults. He accepts you for your mistakes in the past and the ones he knows you’re going to make in the future. But unlike society, or referred to in the Bible as “man”, God loves us unconditionally. How do we know this? Let’s read over the passages above again.

In the 2nd chapter of Philippians, the apostle Paul tries to stress to the Philippians that no matter the belief,  we must love one another and unite as one spirit for a greater purpose. In order to do so we must take the concerns of others and make them our own. You’re probably thinking you shouldn’t have to solve others problems when you may have problems of your own. Or you live by the saying, “You made your own bed, now you have to lie in it.” What if God had decided that we should pay for the sins of our fathers, mothers, grandfathers, grandmothers, and so on? We’d all live in fear that when death came, we’d be judged on an unfair curve, based on actions we had no control over. But he didn’t abandon us or stay stuck in his ways. He was compassionate and wanted to save us from our sins. God decided that empathizing wasn’t enough. He also wanted to sympathize with us.

God understood the only way to truly sympathize with us would be to humble himself and see the world through human eyes. He could’ve come to us in the flesh with all the fanfare and hoopla of a son in a royal family. But he chose to be born into a virgin marriage and live amongst the common Jews. Furthermore he limited his knowledge and power so that he could convey the word of God, in human terms. In other words the Lord put himself in our shoes so that we’d use his life as an a blueprint for how we should live ours.

How often do we follow the blueprint God set for us?

Instead of putting others first and trying to come together as one people, we’re out here looking out for ourselves. It’s all about me, and what can I get for myself, and why am I not getting props for what I just did.  Christ didn’t walk around after he healed the epileptic child, and go, “Did yall see that? That kid was sick and I made him better on the spot. I’m on a whole other level. You can’t stop my shine.” Or did he tell everyone to kiss his feet, after he fed 5,000 people in a desert with two fish and five loaves of bread? Jesus displayed selflessness, which is something that has gotten lost through the years.

Maybe it’s the athletes these days. They’ve been considered role models for generations. And with each new generation athletes seem to care less and less about the team aspect of sports. If a star player is an unbelievable scorer, 7 out of 10 times he’s not passing the ball to his teammates. He’s more concerned about padding his own stats, and making himself look good, that he misses out on the blessings of winning championships. Once their careers are over, they wonder why the teams they were apart of, never reach their full potential. Maybe if they had lifted their teammates up to their level, instead of keeping their teammates at arm’s length, blessings would’ve come to them. No, they choose to be about themselves, instead of the team. Now they have to live with “but”. He was a great player “but”. She was an amazing athlete “but”. You never want a “but” to ruin your legacy.

So in closing I say we need to stop the selfishness, and get back to what God intended for us to do…being like him. And being like him means lifting one another and not just ourselves. We need to build up our fellow man, and enemies, instead of bringing them down. They have to earn it themselves but you can offer them the advice they need to get there. There’s only one way to get where we want to go, and that’s by following the path the Lord has set for us.

I leave you with this question. Do want to be like God, or are you just another star who won’t pass the damn ball?


Sunday Spiritual: 8/16 – Don’t Choose to be a Fool

praying_handsHow’s everyone doing on this fine Sunday? I’m great…got a good night’s sleep, and woke up with an idea that may be a complete success or utter failure. During the introduction to Da Fif I said to expect the unexpected here. We may say some things you will agree with, and others you may not. We may also delve into talk about how sexy someone is one day, and religion the next. Well, today is the day we’ll talk about religion. Better yet, today is the day I’ll bring up religion. Depending upon the response, I may do this again.

In church before a minister gives his sermon, he takes you through the text he’s covering and also drops a title for his sermon. I’m no preacher, and I don’t pretend to be. But I’d like to incorporate some of their style into this blog so bare with me.

A lot of people say, in order to understand the present, you first have look to the past. So that’s what I want to do today. And what better way to do than to look at our origin. Let’s look at the very beginning of the human race, in the first book of Moses.

Text: Genesis 3: 1-19

Don’t Choose to Be a Fool

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have everything you could ever dream of? I know I have. I’d love to live in a world where I don’t have to wonder if the shady looking character walking past me is going to do me harm, or if the economy will recover soon. I can’t imagine that kind of place but it once existed. Adam and Eve lived in paradise where all living creatures lived in perfect harmony. There were no worries, insecurities, or even unhappiness. They literally had it all. And all God asked in return was that they to comply with one rule, don’t eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

God could’ve easily prevented Adam and Eve from ever eating the forbidden fruit. But he wanted to give them the opportunity to decide for themselves, whether they wanted to obey him, or give into the temptation and curiosity placed before them by Satan. As expected, Satan played on Eve’s natural greed, promising she’d become a god if she disobeyed the Lord’s wishes. Eve chose to sin and Adam followed suit. By eating the forbidden fruit Adam and Eve changed the course of history, and how we live our lives today.

Look at the society we live in today. A lot of what goes on in the world today, can all be traced back to Adam and Eve’s transgression. We have a choice to the follow the laws set forth by our government. I don’t agree with most laws but they’re there. Whether it’s as small as downloading music off the internet, or as major as taking another person’s life, we voluntarily decide to live on the wrong side of the law. And like Adam and Eve we’re punished accordingly.

Michael Vick is a prime example of what happens when you put greed before the Lord. Wouldn’t you say he had it all? He was one of the highest paid players in the NFL, as well as the most popular amongst fans. But instead of choosing to be content with what the Lord blessed him with, he wanted to live on the edge. He wanted to test the boundaries set for us by laws. Rather than loving the animal known as man’s best friend, he chose to treat them cruelly. Murdering poor defenseless animals cost him everything. He lost his money and his freedom. Until the day he dies he will be known as the man who wet down dogs and electrocuted them.   

There’s nothing like the love of God though. Despite all the sins and crimes this man committed, God never gave up on Vick. Vick has appeared remorseful, and a changed man thanks to his time in prison. And he’s getting his 2nd chance to live his life the way the Lord sees fit. The Philadelphia Eagles are giving this man the chance to redeem his playing career, and the Humane Society is providing him with an outlet to help convince children not to make some of the choices he’s made in his past. That’s God’s love in action, allowing this man to make amends for his wrong doings. What happens next is up to Vick. As long as he chooses to abide by God’s rules, he’ll be okay. If not, I’d hate to see what else he could lose.

In closing, I hope that you all got the point I was trying to make. We control our own destiny. The choices made today effect the way our lives are tomorrow. Trust in the Lord and his word, and you will prosper. Choosing not to follow God’s rules has its consequences. Choose wisely, and don’t choose to be a fool.


Lyrical Insomnia


Have you ever listened to a song, and wondered if the artist was perched on a tree outside your window when they wrote it? That’s where I am right now. A female friend told me to check out the song Someone, by Musiq Soulchild. She had blasted it a couple times that day and figured she’d drop some much needed R&B in my life. As in most cases like this, I already had that particular album, but never really listened to it. Man, I wish I had listened to the song before now cause it’s left a brotha’s mind in knots.

Maybe “knots” is a bit over dramatic, but it’s damn near close. When I listen to music, the beat or lyrical content has to be on point, if not, I’m not feeling it. By lyrical content I mean, thought provoking lyrics that bring you inside the artist’s mind, and prompt you to “compare notes” so to speak, with your own life. I’m sure any man like me who hasn’t had much success when it comes to love, or even kats that have already found that special lady, can really identify with this song.

Here are the lyrics that really stood out to me the most.

  • See I always hope for a woman that’s so sure, emotionally secure, with spiritual faith. – If I’ve given you the pleasure of getting to know the real me, then you know how strong I feel about my relationship with the big man upstairs. The problem I often find with women is that they’re either spiritual weaklings, or just “go to church”. I’m not the church every week type, and can count on my hands how many times I go in a year. So when I ask a woman how she feels about God, and her response is, “I go to church.”, I’m out. Cause any true believer of the Word knows that spiritual growth starts in your own private time, and church is more like icing on the cake. The answer I’m still waiting for is, “I love the Lord, and can’t imagine where my life would be without him.” It’s emphatic and shows how confident she is in her faith and herself.
  • A woman that I can trust with all of my secrets, and even listen to all of my issues. – I trust about as often as I change dogs, and I’ve only had 4 dogs in my lifetime. So to say that I have trust issues is an understatement. I’ve seen where trusting the wrong women has gotten friends and male family members of mine. They’re broken-hearted, single, and either owe their ex’s alimony or child support. I’m not looking to follow in their footsteps so I have to trust selectively. But like every man out there, I’m looking for that woman who can break through the wall I have surrounding me.
  • Someone who will put up with the things, loving me can bring, but still be there to see us through. – Let me bring you inside my head for a moment. I’m a bit apprehensive when it comes anyone, especially women. Blame it on my upbringing, or past endeavors of the heart. But dealing with me is like driving backwards in traffic, one misstep and you’re royally screwed. Yes, I’m an ass sometimes, but I openly admit that. However, I don’t play games, but I will test the hell out of a woman. It’s never on purpose but I tend to push away them away just to see if they’ll stick around. I’ve had a couple who’ve let me know that they weren’t going anywhere, and that’s what I’m looking for.
  • All that I hope for a friendship that’s so pure, a girl I can talk to bout, whatever is on my heart. – I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone tell me that they could never date a friend, yet they want their significant other to be their friend once the relationship is serious. Those same people are single again after their plan blew up in their faces. If I can’t be friends with a woman from the start, I’m pretty sure things won’t work out. There’s a level of familiarity when you date a friend, and the potential to love that person is there because you know them & they know you so well. And the fact that you can talk to them openly is a major plus. Why waste time getting to know a stranger, when you can skip that process by dating someone who you don’t have to wait to bare your soul to.
  • A woman who bares her soul, who is willing to let go. That wants me to lead her but knows how to take control. – I have this thing about a woman not holding back with me, before I’ll return the sentiment. But you do have those women who are only as open as you are, and that’ll never work with me. And I could take the 2nd half of this lyric from a sexual perspective, but I wanna look at it more from a teamwork standpoint. The success of a team is based on how well the pieces compliment each other. I don’t know everything, and I’ve never claimed that I did. Having a woman whose strengths compensate for my weaknesses, seems ideal to me. As a man I want to take charge of most situations, but as a real man, I have no problem deferring to my woman when it’s in our best interest.

As you can tell, “Someone” really got the gears in my mind turning. It’s had somewhat of a double edged sword effect for me. While I wanna believe there are women out there that fit the description in the song, I know I’m gonna find myself using the lyrics as a checklist for women past and present in my life. It might be a good thing, then again it could be utterly terrible. No matter what, I’m gonna continue to be so crunk, yet so humble. And when that “someone” does come, I might keep her around.

For your listening pleasure……


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